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It’s about the heart

February 13, 2012
Weirton Daily Times

Along with hundreds of others, I was at two candlelight vigils recently.

That, in all honesty, is two too many.

I have seen this and the surrounding communities come together for the Cummings and West families.

That means those in the communities cared more about others than themselves.

That's why we are here on earth - for others.

We are here to make the lives of others better.

We are here to make sure selflessness dominates selfishness.

Yet, day in and day out, unfortunately as I wander in and out of gyms and other athletic fields, too many adults still just don't get it.

Communities have gone above and beyond in help for the Cummings and West families.

Life is about a huge community hug.

Life is about the teammates you really don't like at one particular time, you still always love. Teammates don't always have to like each other, but teammates always have to love each other.

Life is about watching our kids "get it" despite us adults.

Our communities must immerse ourselves in others.

Teams bet better because of teammates.

Individuals get better because of teammates.

There are study groups for a reason - to help others get better in school.

Life is about cheering on your teammates when you are on the bench for any reason.

Any reason.

Life is about letting kids be kids - hugging them when they're good and not so good.

It's about cheering for your team when your child is on the bench, not sitting in the stands with steam coming out of your ears because your child is on the bench.

We want to edify our kids, not bash their coach.

Life is about raising the bar of expectations for our kids.

The more we raise the bar, the more often they will reach that bar.

Then we reset it.

Kids will reach that bar.

In the Bible, there are 17 references in the book of Matthew which refer to the heart.

"Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God." - 5:8

"But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." - 5:28

"For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." - 6:21

"And Jesus knowing their thoughts said, Wherefore think ye evil in your hearts?" - 9:4

"Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls." - 11:29

"O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things." - 12:34-35

"For as Jonas was three days and three nights in the whale's belly; so shall the Son of man be three days and three nights in the heart of the earth." - 12:40

"For this people's heart is waxed gross, and their ears are dull of hearing, and their eyes they have closed; lest at any time they should see with their eyes and hear with their ears, and should understand with their heart, and should be converted, and I should heal them." - 13:15

"When any one heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not, then cometh the wicked one, and catcheth away that which was sown in his heart. This is he which received seed by the way side." - 13:19

"This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me." - 15:8

"But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:" - 15:18-19

"So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses." - 18:35

"He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so." - 19:8

"Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind." - 22:37

"But and if that evil servant shall say in his heart, My lord delayeth his coming;" - 24:48

There are 884 verses which reference the heart in the Bible.

New York City police officer Kevin Brennan walked out of Bellevue Hospital on Friday 10 days after being shot in the base of the skull. He left the hospital wearing a replica jersey of New York Giants player Justin Tuck.

Shortly after the 29-year-old Brennan returned home, a black Escalade pulled up and out popped Tuck.

"I wanted to show him some support," Tuck told the New York Daily News. "That's all."


Rice signed Bryan (Texas) Rudder High School defensive end David Wilganowski to a football scolarship. He had already verbally committed to the Owls and signed on national signing day.

Wilganowski, though, will never play a down at Rice for head coach David Bailiff.

In September he collapsed during a game and required emergency surgery to stay alive. He was shocked with an automatic external difibrillator on the field and eventually flown to Houston. There it was diagnosed that the 18-year-old would require a difibrillator be implanted in his chest.

That procedure that stabilized his life also ensured his days as a football player were over.

"We ask young men to keep their word to us, you know we say we're going to be with them through thick or thin," Bailiff told KHOU. "I think it's a good practice that you keep your word."


Please understand that many coaches spend more time with your kids sometimes than they do with their own.

Do you know what coaches are not doing during summer ball, spending time with their families while they are coaching members of your family.

Yes, it's their choice.

Just as it is your choice to bash them for their hard work because you don't like playing time, substitutions or whatever is stuck in your craw that day.

Remember, the coach you find nothing but fault with is the same coach whose wife or husband is sitting in the stands, or on the sidelines during a travel soccer game, listening to you rip their loved one.

What's in your heart when you (not your child) turn in your child's uniform and you whine about lack of playing time?

What's in your heart when you feel the rules of the team apply to everyone else and are good enough for everyone else on the team but your child?

What's in your heart when you sit in a gym and yell negative comments at members of the other team?

Speaking of that, dear adults, if you hear an adult yell or say something negative to a member of the other team and you do nothing to stop the verbal assault, you are as guilty as they are.

Yes, guilt by association.

Shut them up and kick them out of the gym.

If you are all in with the team your child is a member of, there is a really good chance you will enhance that experience, not only with your child, but with all of the members of the team.


"Your attitude is like the aroma of your heart. If your attitude stinks, it means your heart's not right." - Grant Taylor, Facing The Giants.

(Mathison, a Weirton resident, is the sports editor of the Herald-Star and The Weirton Daily Times and can be contacted at

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